Habits of Highly Effective People
7 habits of highly effective people
No matter how many motivational
videos you watch.
your motivation and excitement level
will fade away after some time. and in the
end you will again start doing
things according to your “habits” as humans are creatures
of habits and its really difficult
for us to change them but before that we should
know what habits we have to change
or develop in our self.
Because getting our habits right can
mean the difference between success and failure
not only in our personal lives, but
also our professional lives, and in the communities
in which we live. today I’m going to
share with you the 7 habits that will make you a
really effective person.
Habit 1.
Be proactive at a restaurant a
cockroach came a sat on a lady she started screaming in fear. with a panic face and trembling
voice she started jumping with both her hands trying to get off the cockroach. her reaction was
contagious which made everyone in her group also panic. The lady finally managed to push the
cockroach away, but it landed on another lady in the group now it was the turn of the
other lady in the group to continue the drama. the waiter rushed forward to their rescue. in
the relay of throwing the cockroach next fell upon the waiter. The waiter instead of
screaming or panicking stood firm composed himself and
observed the behavior of the
cockroach on his shirt when he was confident enough he grabbed the cockroach with his finger and
threw it out of the restaurant Now We can relate this story with
the concept of proactive and reactive people. here
the waiter was a proactive person because he did not reacted to the situation which
came to him unlike the ladies did but instead he handled it with proper thinking and action.
There is great difference between proactive and reactive people. reactive people love to play
the blame game. according to them all the problems happening to them are because of the
government, their boss, other people etc. according to them things are not in their control
but in the hands of other people or circumstances. They think the problem is "out
there", But in reality that thought is the problem. Reactivity becomes a self-fulfilling
prophecy, and reactive people feel increasingly victimized and out of control. They usually say things like:
"There's nothing I can do."
"There's nothing I can do."
"That's just the way I
am."
He makes me mad on the other hand
proactive people take the control of their feelings in their own hand instead
of giving someone else. they take 100% responsibility for their actions and
behavior. they don’t blame the situations but rather think of solutions
instead. So in order to be proactive, we must focus on the Circle of Influence
that lies within our Circle of Concern - in other words, we must work on the
things we can do something about and not to focus on things we can’t do
anything about like the reactive people usually do.
Habit no 2.
The End In Mind
This habit is similar to the law, Now
imagine you are at a funeral but this one is different from any other funeral
you have ever attended as you come to know that it is actually your own funeral.
now stop and think what are the things you would really like others to say
about you or what would you like to say about yourself at that time. eg do you
want to be remembered as a great friend then are you behaving as a great friend
right now which will make your friends to say that. Do you want to be
remembered as a person who added a lot of value to the society and helped many people
in need if yes then are you working on it right now. are your actions aligned
with the goals you want to
accomplish Ask yourself what are the things that you definitely want to achieve
before you die and start working on it, don’t just do things without any clue
of the end.
Habit no 3.
Put first things first
How many times we catch our self-scrolling
our Facebook feed, watching YouTube videos
or TV. when we have a lot of other
important things needed to be finished. this is one
of the most common habit which
wastes so much of our time and holds us back from going above the average. it
is simple yet really hard to develop this habit but in order to manage
yourself effectively we must put
first things first, we must prioritize our day to day action based on what is
the most important and not what is most urgent, all the habits in this book are
related to each other. so when you decide your end goals properly and then work
to complete that goals, you must put things which will help you to complete your
main goal at first place. never let less important things to keep you away from
doing things which are of most importance Time is very precious so Be stingy
with your time rather then money.
Habit no 4.
Think To win
Suppose you think of starting your
own business. you make a plan thinking all about your
profits, growth and create a product
which is not that helpful to your customers but still with your great marketing
team and persuasion skills you sell it to a lot of people and start making profits.
now do you think you will really make it big by doing this and get long term
results. Off course you won’t because by doing this you are creating a win loose
situation. in order to make it big you should always think of win outcome for
everyone. You should think more about adding values and benefits that you can
bring to your customer doing this will automatically make your profits and
hence yourself big. I see a lot of people having mentality that in order for
them to win someone else has to loose. which is called the Scarcity Mentality in
other words which means, if you get it, I won’t. but in reality There is plenty
out here for everyone. we just need to develop
the mentality which is called
abundance mentality. And Always try to create win outcome in any situation
business or agreement for the best results.
Habit No 5.
See First to Understand
Let’s say you go to an optometrist
and tell him that you’ve been having trouble seeing
clearly, so he takes off his glasses,
hands them to you and says, you should try these
they’ve been working for me for
years!” So you put them on, but it only makes the problem worse. now What are
the chances you’d go back to that optometrist? Yet in our everyday interactions
with others, we do the same thing. We prescribe a solution before we diagnose
the problem clearly. We start critizing people without understanding their
feeling. we focus on what the other person said and react thinking how can he
say that when our main question should be
why did he say like that and what where
the real feelings behind it. So Before you can offer advice, suggest solutions,
or effectively interact with another person in any way, you must seek to deeply
understand them and their perspective through empathic listening. You should
not listen with the intend to reply but rater understand. the most important point
is that the person should feel you understood. when you will start doing this
people will also start understanding you.
Habit No 6.
Synergy
if you put two plants close
together, their roots will co-mingle and improve the quality
of the soil, so that both plants
will grow better than they would have on their own.
principle of synergy encourages us
to team up with people rather than fighting or trying
to take each other down. example
there was a tree with apples on it two men were trying
to pick apple from it but they were
too short to reach them so one man got above the second
and picked all the apples. this was
the use of synergy. like this example if we synergize
with other people. we can obtain
better results, increase our capabilities tremendously and
have a much better chances in
reaching our goals.
Habit no 7.
Sharpen the Saw
Once a man was trying to cut down a
tree but even after putting a lot of effort he was
not able to complete his task. there
was a lumberjack who was watching him and after
understanding his struggle, he came
to him and gave him an advice that he should first
sharpen the saw .as his saw was not
sharp enough to cut down the tree. After listening
this the man replied but will take
time. now you might find the reply stupid but we are
also somewhat like this man only. we
can’t take out 30 min from our day to exercise so
that we can have a good health, we
can’t read A BOOK for 15 minutes to improve our knowledge and then we
shamelessly complaining. that why we have such kind of a life
Habit 7 is focused on improving yourself, or
taking time to “sharpen the saw.”
One of the best things you can do
with your time is to spend it on improvising yourself
continuously. To be effective, we
must devote our time in improving ourselves physically,
spiritually, mentally, and socially.
which will help us to practice the remaining 6 habits
as It surrounds all of the other habits
and makes each one possible by preserving and
enhancing the greatest asset. We
have these concepts are taken from the book 7 habits of highly effective
people. which is one of my favorites.
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