Habits of Highly Effective People
7 habits of highly effective people
No matter how many motivational videos you watch.
your motivation and excitement level will fade away after some time. and in the
end you will again start doing things according to your “habits” as humans are creatures
of habits and its really difficult for us to change them but before that we should
know what habits we have to change or develop in our self.
Because getting our habits right can mean the difference between success and failure
not only in our personal lives, but also our professional lives, and in the communities
in which we live. today I’m going to share with you the 7 habits that will make you a
really effective person.
Be proactive at a restaurant a cockroach came a sat on a lady she started screaming in fear. with a panic face and trembling voice she started jumping with both her hands trying to get off the cockroach. her reaction was contagious which made everyone in her group also panic. The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away, but it landed on another lady in the group now it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama. the waiter rushed forward to their rescue. in the relay of throwing the cockroach next fell upon the waiter. The waiter instead of screaming or panicking stood firm composed himself and
observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt when he was confident enough he grabbed the cockroach with his finger and threw it out of the restaurant Now We can relate this story with the concept of proactive and reactive people. here the waiter was a proactive person because he did not reacted to the situation which came to him unlike the ladies did but instead he handled it with proper thinking and action. There is great difference between proactive and reactive people. reactive people love to play the blame game. according to them all the problems happening to them are because of the government, their boss, other people etc. according to them things are not in their control but in the hands of other people or circumstances. They think the problem is "out there", But in reality that thought is the problem. Reactivity becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, and reactive people feel increasingly victimized and out of control. They usually say things like:
"There's nothing I can do."
"There's nothing I can do."
"That's just the way I am."
He makes me mad on the other hand proactive people take the control of their feelings in their own hand instead of giving someone else. they take 100% responsibility for their actions and behavior. they don’t blame the situations but rather think of solutions instead. So in order to be proactive, we must focus on the Circle of Influence that lies within our Circle of Concern - in other words, we must work on the things we can do something about and not to focus on things we can’t do anything about like the reactive people usually do.
Habit no 2.
The End In Mind
This habit is similar to the law, Now imagine you are at a funeral but this one is different from any other funeral you have ever attended as you come to know that it is actually your own funeral. now stop and think what are the things you would really like others to say about you or what would you like to say about yourself at that time. eg do you want to be remembered as a great friend then are you behaving as a great friend right now which will make your friends to say that. Do you want to be remembered as a person who added a lot of value to the society and helped many people in need if yes then are you working on it right now. are your actions aligned
with the goals you want to accomplish Ask yourself what are the things that you definitely want to achieve before you die and start working on it, don’t just do things without any clue of the end.
Habit no 3.
Put first things first
How many times we catch our self-scrolling our Facebook feed, watching YouTube videos
or TV. when we have a lot of other important things needed to be finished. this is one
of the most common habit which wastes so much of our time and holds us back from going above the average. it is simple yet really hard to develop this habit but in order to manage
yourself effectively we must put first things first, we must prioritize our day to day action based on what is the most important and not what is most urgent, all the habits in this book are related to each other. so when you decide your end goals properly and then work to complete that goals, you must put things which will help you to complete your main goal at first place. never let less important things to keep you away from doing things which are of most importance Time is very precious so Be stingy with your time rather then money.
Habit no 4.
Think To win
Suppose you think of starting your own business. you make a plan thinking all about your
profits, growth and create a product which is not that helpful to your customers but still with your great marketing team and persuasion skills you sell it to a lot of people and start making profits. now do you think you will really make it big by doing this and get long term results. Off course you won’t because by doing this you are creating a win loose situation. in order to make it big you should always think of win outcome for everyone. You should think more about adding values and benefits that you can bring to your customer doing this will automatically make your profits and hence yourself big. I see a lot of people having mentality that in order for them to win someone else has to loose. which is called the Scarcity Mentality in other words which means, if you get it, I won’t. but in reality There is plenty out here for everyone. we just need to develop
the mentality which is called abundance mentality. And Always try to create win outcome in any situation business or agreement for the best results.
Habit No 5.
See First to Understand
Let’s say you go to an optometrist and tell him that you’ve been having trouble seeing
clearly, so he takes off his glasses, hands them to you and says, you should try these
they’ve been working for me for years!” So you put them on, but it only makes the problem worse. now What are the chances you’d go back to that optometrist? Yet in our everyday interactions with others, we do the same thing. We prescribe a solution before we diagnose the problem clearly. We start critizing people without understanding their feeling. we focus on what the other person said and react thinking how can he say that when our main question should be
why did he say like that and what where the real feelings behind it. So Before you can offer advice, suggest solutions, or effectively interact with another person in any way, you must seek to deeply understand them and their perspective through empathic listening. You should not listen with the intend to reply but rater understand. the most important point is that the person should feel you understood. when you will start doing this people will also start understanding you.
Habit No 6.
if you put two plants close together, their roots will co-mingle and improve the quality
of the soil, so that both plants will grow better than they would have on their own.
principle of synergy encourages us to team up with people rather than fighting or trying
to take each other down. example there was a tree with apples on it two men were trying
to pick apple from it but they were too short to reach them so one man got above the second
and picked all the apples. this was the use of synergy. like this example if we synergize
with other people. we can obtain better results, increase our capabilities tremendously and
have a much better chances in reaching our goals.
Habit no 7.
Sharpen the Saw
Once a man was trying to cut down a tree but even after putting a lot of effort he was
not able to complete his task. there was a lumberjack who was watching him and after
understanding his struggle, he came to him and gave him an advice that he should first
sharpen the saw .as his saw was not sharp enough to cut down the tree. After listening
this the man replied but will take time. now you might find the reply stupid but we are
also somewhat like this man only. we can’t take out 30 min from our day to exercise so
that we can have a good health, we can’t read A BOOK for 15 minutes to improve our knowledge and then we shamelessly complaining. that why we have such kind of a life
Habit 7 is focused on improving yourself, or taking time to “sharpen the saw.”
One of the best things you can do with your time is to spend it on improvising yourself
continuously. To be effective, we must devote our time in improving ourselves physically,
spiritually, mentally, and socially. which will help us to practice the remaining 6 habits
as It surrounds all of the other habits and makes each one possible by preserving and
enhancing the greatest asset. We have these concepts are taken from the book 7 habits of highly effective people. which is one of my favorites.
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